⚡️ 5-second gist
🧠 You’re often running V1 Safety or V2 Approval on adult problems.
⚠️ Under stress, the most-practiced code hijacks you.
🎯 The upgrade is V3 Values—calmer, clearer choices.
👉 Listen to the episode for the quick “upgrade drill.”
😬 The quiet pain
Rejection of your work feels like rejection of you.
You people-please, overexplain, then regret it.
Logic vows collapse the moment emotions spike.
🎛 The black-box truth
We don’t control the mechanism—only inputs and outputs. Keep feeding fear/validation and you’ll keep getting reactivity and rumination. Change the inputs, change the day.
🧩 The Human OS (the 3 versions)
V1: Safety (0–10) → hide/appease.
V2: Approval (10–25) → perform/belong.
V3: Values (optional) → chosen principles > mood or optics.
Under pressure you won’t rise to goals—you’ll sink to defaults.
👀 Spot it (don’t solve it yet)
Am I chasing safety or approval? (V1/V2)
Would I do this if nobody saw it? (V3)
That’s enough to start catching the hijack.
🧭 Why V3 feels better
When actions match values, stress drops and decisions simplify. Identity stops riding the rollercoaster of other people’s reactions.
🎧 What’s in the episode (teaser)
A 3-second pattern breaker you can use mid-conversation.
A pocket test to separate Participant vs Observer.
Real examples of shifting from V2 to V3 in work and relationships.
Reply: Where does V2 hijack you most—work, relationships, or health?
🔊 Listen to the episode on Spotify or Itunes
